Treason: what is and how to recognize?

The relationship between people is diverse. Feelings like love and hate are always there. No wonder they say that from love to hate is one step. These two feelings can change their places in the soul of a person in the first place when a betrayal occurs.

Deception - this is treason. And it can be present in all areas of human life. This concept is especially common when it comes to relationships between the sexes.

Betrayal violates all the laws of an honest relationship between a man and a woman. Where is the line between betrayal and fleeting enthusiasm, no one can answer. Each person makes all conclusions for himself.

For example, between two close people love breaks out, which develops into something more - a kinship of souls. The betrayal of one partner makes both of them unhappy. This happens because one of them decides not to act honestly with the other.

The result is a deception that cannot be experienced easily and freely. The harmony of feelings is broken, which leads to a break.

Different people change in different ways. For someone, cheating is not considered cheating if it was a one-time character. Despite this, this manifestation will never become the norm. None of the decent people will come to terms with the fact that he was betrayed.

By the way, men and women have different views on this factor. The former believe that male adultery does not pose any threat to their family. Some men seriously equate their vicious relationships with negative habits, such as smoking and drinking.Non-drinkers and non-smokers justify themselves by saying that this is their only drawback.

Women cheat on their faithful no less than men. But here you need to make a reservation. A certain percentage of them do this out of revenge, trying to prove to their husband that he does not behave as he would like.

To put it bluntly, then not a single decent woman will commit adultery if her companion is rich, polite, handsome, a family man, does not drink, does not smoke. Therefore, this issue must be approached in more depth if we want to know the causes of female infidelity. So why do women and men still have a desire to go on betrayal, let's figure it out.

They may be different. How many people, so many reasons. But it is possible to classify the premises that lead to treason. Let's try to break them down by points.

• Let's start with the banal. The girl marries not for love. Certain circumstances forced her to take this step. At that moment, when she made this decision, it seemed to her that everything was "hardened - to fall in love." But no, the human soul has properties that do not obey a sober mind. After some time, she met the man of her dreams. Of course, in this situation no one can give himself the order to love or not love this or that person. As a result, there was treason and, as a result, the destruction of marriage.

• Another point. At first, everything was fine in family relationships. But over time, conflicts began. The couple began to move away from each other. One of them met a more congenial person. He seemed to him more attractive. Soon the marriage was destroyed.

• Some of the spouses do not have enough attention all the time. For example, a woman tries to make her appearance impeccable anyway. Against this background, she is also a good hostess, and a self-sufficient person. And the husband does not notice all these qualities at point blank range, but, on the contrary, reproaches her for the slightest offense.

• Spouses live too long together. Children are adults, but there are no common interests. The emotional atmosphere in the house suggests that the husband and wife have become completely alien people. To check whether this is so, one of them decides to cheat. Then it turns out that, indeed, it is time to free each other from family obligations. But this does not always happen. The situation may turn around and go in a different scenario. Treason will create stress, emotional shake. The result will be the reconciliation of the spouses, and they will heal in a new way.
• Social networks increase the number of cheats. Many people have their own personal accounts. Some of them communicate with former friends and classmates. Among them may be former lovers. And there is no guarantee that between them again forgotten feelings will not erupt.

• It’s hard to imagine, but it also happens that some just need sex. It is for his sake that they are ready to forget about family and children. After such actions repentance comes, but if relatives know about it, the reckoning will be very high. It will take a lot of work to rehabilitate relations between spouses.
• And another “trifling reason” is alcohol. When intoxicated, a person cannot think adequately. Naturally, the feelings that a normal person suppresses in himself prevail. When the consciousness does not meet the requirements of decency, then such negative manifestations happen.The payback for this may be too high. Therefore, those who poorly control themselves after taking alcohol should be especially careful.

• Big difference in age also plays an important role in shaping the mood for treason. This does not happen right away. When a man and a woman meet, where one is much older than the other, then at first everything goes perfectly. An older partner protects his love. But time passes, and age begins to affect all spheres of life. First of all, it is a sexual attraction, then there is a versatility of views and beliefs. The result is a complete mismatch of personalities, since a significant age difference between spouses is by and large unnatural.

Recognizing treason is not easy. Some unfaithful spouses hide their relationship in such a way that even an experienced special agent will not be able to split them. Everything is serious there: passwords, apartments, appearances. Typically, such relationships are not publicized for a long time, and some of them even become undisclosed.

If both changing parties do not strive to make their relations known to a large circle of people, then they will do everything possible and impossible to conceal treason.

No wife or husband will suspect his soul mate of treason if she is careful in everything. Yes, it is very difficult, but in some way it justifies unfaithful husbands and wives.

Another thing is when there is clear evidence of treason. And here is what you need to pay attention to.

• The second half began to monitor their appearance with particular care. And this applies to both men and women. What is worth paying attention to in this case: recently, your husband (wife) is particularly interested in personal hygiene, a sharp smell of perfume or cologne comes from your loved one, the perfect hairstyle is done every day, and so on. It all started suddenly, but before this was not observed. Take a closer look at your companion.
• Flirting is another sign. It can occur for no reason when you are in a familiar company. Your companion (CA) behaves defiantly, constantly drawing attention to himself. Moreover, this does not mean that the object of adoration of your spouse (ha) is nearby. Just at a time when a person is in a romantic relationship, he behaves this way because of a slight increase in hormonal levels, or he is possessed by excitement.

• Coldness in sexual relations - This is a clear sign that the partner is cheating on you. The unfaithful spouse (gi) has a double life. In one, your other half is a faithful and loving person, in the other - a passionate lover (ts). Such people have enough experiences, and they easily refuse superfluous.

• Nervous behavior may also indicate that the partner is cheating on you. You simply began to annoy him because he had a new object of adoration. It seems to him that you intentionally do everything to make him angry.

• Your wife or husband is acting suspiciously. Frequent delays at work, scared look when you ask leading questions. Everything suggests that you need to think about the problem. Many changing partners begin to hide their phone so that you cannot track their calls and private messages. You may be too carried away by your suspicions, but checking in this situation will not hurt.

These are just some of the most pronounced signs that you need to pay attention to.If you know your husband or wife quite well, then you yourself will be able to see changes in behavior that are peculiar only to your loved one.

There is no and will not be a definite answer to this question. Of course, there is nothing good in betraying a loved one. And judging one-sidedly, then here you can give only one piece of advice - to get a divorce.

But we all understand that in our life there are different situations that do not allow us to act directly and unconditionally carry out the right actions.

If you are strongly attached to your husband or wife, love madly and do not want a divorce, then you should think and listen to the advice of a psychologist.

You can put up with treason when you cannot imagine life without a person close to you. In this case, do not push him into a frank conversation and try to bring him to "clean water".

So you risk losing your love forever. Perhaps he (she) will turn around and leave with the words: “Since you know everything, then I don’t need to explain anything to you.” If you are afraid of such a turn of events, then proceed with caution.

It is not necessary in this situation to cause scandals and tantrums, to demand fidelity and honesty. If the spouse (s) did not "slam the door" right away, then where is the guarantee that he (she) will not leave after another scandal.

If you feel that your husband (wife) is tormented and does not know what to do, then it is better not to make sudden movements. Pretend that you do not know anything, continue to behave as if nothing had happened. Even try to increase your attention towards your spouse (s).

Another thing is when drastic measures are needed so that the spouse (a) acknowledges (a) his mistake.

First you need to convict a cheated husband (wife). The wrong partner must understand that he has committed a very bad deed. Otherwise, betrayal will become a habit. It is not necessary that the husband (wife) bears a great punishment.

You can just talk with a loved one and explain that his actions damage your family reputation. If you have a trusting relationship, things might work out.

The standard of marriage has always been the loyalty of both spouses. Therefore, you need to urge your partner to the correct behavior towards you. To do this, you must rely on your thoughts and desires.

You need to understand that it’s not enough just to calculate treason. After this happens, you need to clearly know what to do with this fact and how to proceed. There is one simple answer to this - it's up to you. If you decide to forgive, then goodbye and never regret it.

It’s not enough to learn that the other half is cheating. After that, you need to understand how to survive the pain of betrayal. Therefore, follow your inner voice, it will never deceive you. And start working on the problem.

• Do not get hung up on what has been cheated on you. Destroy all the negative memories and experiences that you suffered during the time you learned about the betrayal of a loved one. Cross out the fact of treason from your head. This will make it easier when you feel that your partner is very repentant.
• Do not blame yourself for cowardice and the fact that you are doing something wrong. You go to the call of your heart and you are absolutely right in this. No one can blame you for your actions.

• Do not listen to the advice that well-wishers try to give you. Not always can they help, and some can only do harm. Remember that judging from the outside is much easier than experiencing a problem in the soul.
• Do not take revenge. Be taller. Do not be angry, because anger is a bad adviser and has never helped anyone.Due to negativity, your problems will only grow like a snowball.
• After the betrayal of a loved one, the soul is very bad. To avoid depression, do distracting and positive things. Exercise best helps. On a treadmill or in a stadium you will meet like-minded people.

If you are reading this point now, you should understand that deep down you still hope that your relationship does not break up. If you decide to forgive infidelity and make peace with your spouse, follow these steps.

• When you are next to your soulmate, try not to reproach him (her) once again for betrayal. Believe me, your loved one is experiencing no less than yours and is trying by all means to establish relationships.
• Take a little walk together, go visit and demonstrate your reconciliation.
• Engage in a common business, for example, start saving up money to buy expensive things that you need and which will please both of you.

• Be sure to involve children in various family celebrations and pastimes. This will only strengthen your marriage.
• Start a joint repair in your apartment or initiate a construction project at the cottage of an object in the form of a gazebo. Subsequently, you will arrange joint gatherings there.
• Separate pastime can also contribute to quick adaptation to reality. Let one of you go fishing and the other do business. In the evening you will meet and have a dinner together, where the ear will be the main dish.

You can forget all insults when it will be a mental attitude. No one will solve your problems for you.

Treason is treason. The psychology of betrayal is this: the closest person has betrayed you, and this makes you even more sick.

Definitely betrayal is not forgiveness. No explanation can justify this action. This attitude towards oneself does not need to be endured. The world is crumbling before our eyes and it seems that everything, life will never be the same.

However, you should say “stop” to yourself. Pull yourself together! From sobbing and moaning you will not feel better at heart. On the contrary, you will further aggravate your condition. Nothing is worse than death. Everything that is not connected with it can be corrected.

To forgive or not to forgive - this will depend only on your desire, character and mood. The moral side does not play any role here. Under certain circumstances, a loved one can be understood, despite the fact that he is very guilty in front of you.

Of course, if your companion (ts) violated the vow of fidelity more than once, then you should think deeply about the continuation of the relationship. Although in this case it is impossible to judge unambiguously. Moreover, if this is not the first time you have let everything go “on the brakes”, then you have already adapted to this turn of events in your life.

Is it worth it then to change the way of your joint existence - since you always forgive your loved one, then this person is dear to you.

In no case should you blame yourself for such behavior. No one has the right to do this both from the side of relatives and from the side of your friends. This is your fate, and only you can decide what to do in a given situation.

Since you are not tired of suffering, it means that they do not cause much damage to your psyche. In this case, there is only one advice: fight for your happiness, despite ridicule and condemnation.

Normal people will not laugh at other people's mistakes. If someone is trying to condemn you, it means that he himself is not all right in his personal life. And the opinion of the loser should not interest you.

It also happens that a person made a mistake once and immediately got caught. He really wants to kneel before you and apologize.But your pride does not allow your chosen one to heartily ask you for forgiveness. From this you suffer yourself and torment your other half.

Why is this suffering? There is one simple rule to be a happy person: if you really want to do something, then do it. Otherwise, you will later regret the rest of your life about the missed opportunity.

No one knows how fate will develop further. Maybe you are “blinded” by your insult and are not able to see how your loved one is suffering. therefore be prudent - do not resist your sincere desires and impulses.

To this question, as in previous cases, there is no single answer. Spontaneous betrayals cannot be predicted in advance and, of course, prevent them. If the betrayal occurred against the background of drunk alcohol, then it can be considered force majeure.

No need to think about what a husband or wife will definitely change. Our thoughts are material, and you can involuntarily throw trouble on your family. Just live and be not afraid of anything, all the more it needs to be done if there are no certain preconditions for concern.

To begin with, your opponent (CA) will never succeed if you are the standard of the right behavior. If your impeccable appearance makes passersby turn around, and the behavior is always correct, and you have all human qualities, then relax.

The chances that you will be deceived by a loved one are halved. Anyone who wants to seduce your wife or your husband will think several times before trying to persuade the soulmate to cheat. Since the opponent (CA) will understand that you are a worthy opponent (CA), and will not want to fail.

Another thing is if you have not recently been trying to take care of your image. This may be due to lack of time and money. But especially women should remember that a real lady will always find the means to make herself beautiful.

Simple cucumber masks, unpretentious hair care and not expensive, but stylish clothes will make your look unique. Men can also be advised to keep themselves in a certain shape. Do not overeat at night and exercise regularly (the same applies to women). A flabby figure and sagging belly have not made anyone attractive.

Many temptations often lead to the fact that a person begins to spray. He wants to taste all the charms of life. For those who have less stable outlooks on life, the lines between hobbies and betrayal are erased.

Life theory is always significantly different from practical. No wonder folk wisdom says: “I will scout someone else's misfortune with my hands. But what about your own? It will not work overnight. Will have to work on this.

Remember that after the betrayal of one of the partners (spouses) between you will never and nothing will be as before. All relations will have to be restored again, and some of them should be changed in a completely different direction.

If you decide to save your marriage and feelings, then try to tune in to the fact that you will have to do a lot before peace and joy come to your house again.

To do this, you must adhere to the advice of a psychologist.

• Do not provoke your partner to scandals once again. Do not remind of treason and do not reproach.
• Engage in common affairs that will unite you and make peace.
• Communicate more with children and spend a joint holiday with your family.
• Try to forget everything that was associated with treason. In extreme cases, you can try to move to another city.There is already definitely no one and nothing will remind you of the negative experience.

In another situation, when for you the betrayal of a loved one has become a fatal phenomenon, do not torture yourself and try to “glue a broken cup.” Take a strong-willed step and chop off in one fell swoop everything that was connected with the person who betrayed you.

So it will be easier for you to dot all i. You need to understand one simple rule: the longer the decision will take, the more you will fall into a stupor. This condition will entail psychosomatic phenomena. From great emotional overload, you can get sick physically. Therefore, take care of your nerves and give yourself the order to part.

Yes, it will be difficult at first, but time heals. Everything passes. There will be nothing left of the pain, and you will be ready for new meetings, more vivid, which will end in a strong relationship.

Just don’t try to put a “cross” on yourself. It now seems to you that you cannot believe anyone else. Remember that a lot of interesting and unexplored remains in life. If you don’t want to see anyone near you now, then try to find a hobby for everyone. As a result, you can cure the soul, and when this happens, you yourself will feel that you want to meet someone.