How to understand that a girl is cheating?

Regardless of how long the relationship lasts, how it develops, it has already reached marriage or not, every man sooner or later thinks about whether his lady changes his heart or not. Men usually don’t go to friends or relatives with relevant questions - the topic is too delicate. They turn to information on the Internet, and then a real test awaits them, because most of the tips are made in such a way that even a non-jealous man at the end of reading turns into Othello. Not all recommendations are equally useful. Let's look at the question from different points of view.

Nature made it easier for men to do it - if a girl is cheating, it usually becomes pretty quickly obvious, because ladies are less savvy in conspiracy of their betrayal and more prone to emotionality, which can betray them head on, and the changes will certainly be reflected in behavior.

Before we talk about the signs, let's look at the girl’s psychotype. Psychologists distinguish several types of the fair sex, which are prone to betrayal.

• Bored ladies - girls and women who have a large amount of free and unoccupied time. If at the same time the chosen one works, studies and cannot spend all time nearby, then the bored young lady may well go in search of adventure and new emotions.
• Inherited traitors. The concept of fidelity is instilled almost from a kindergarten. Any girl subconsciously accepts the type and style of relations with partners from her own mother.If the mother often changed partners or a divorce from her father took place due to female infidelity, the girl has all the prerequisites to become traitors too.
• Sexually relaxed and experienced. A girl who has a rich personal story that justifies her friends cheating on their husbands and grooms has a fairly easy relationship with adultery, and therefore he himself is not excluded.
• Frustrated ladies. If a girl is disappointed in her partner, if the relationship has recently become much worse, then it is possible that from resentment for shattered dreams, she will go in search of who can replace the failed prince.

• Women of a different social stratum, a different level of education. If there is an abyss between your interests and those of a lady, if she has a prestigious and highly paid job, and on weekends she goes to self-knowledge courses and studies Sanskrit, and you work tirelessly with your 8 classes and technical school, dreaming of simply getting enough sleep on the weekend, then it's early or later, a clash of interests is inevitable. Most likely, it will be she who will find the one who will also learn Sanskrit and engage in self-knowledge with her, since she will just be more interesting with him.

• Also, do not write off the amorousness. There are so amorous and fascinating natures that it is difficult even for themselves to capture their interests and sympathies. In addition, there is true love - leave the woman the right to make a mistake (the mistake in this case is you).

There are a lot of signs of female infidelity, but if you find one in the list, you should not make hasty conclusions. Only a complex of "symptoms" of infidelity will help suspect adultery with a more or less real probability. On their own, individual signs may not say anything.

If you have been together for a long time, then the habits and reactions of your partner are pretty well aware. The lady who decided on treason becomes different - she suddenly changes her image, loses weight, does another makeup. And all these changes are clearly not for you, because your compliments are either ignored or cause slight irritation. A woman begins to preen for a longer time before going to her friend, although she used to run out in a tracksuit and light jacket, examine herself in the mirror longer before work or school. Meetings with a friend themselves will become more frequent, and more and more often she will have a reason to leave home without you somewhere.

Most importantly, her mood and look are changing. Women poorly mask their own emotions, carefully looking into her eyes, much can be understood - the cheater will look away, avoid direct eye-to-eye contact, at the same time she will be inspired and a little dreamy. If the betrayal was a one-time character and the woman regrets it, then she will be in a bad mood, will avoid communication.

Meetings are becoming more rare, intimate life is minimized or completely lost. If you still do not live together, then dates will become rare. Increasingly, she will respond to your suggestions to meet with a refusal under a plausible pretext - there are things at work, a lot of work at the university, she is tired, someone from her relatives fell ill, goes on a business trip, etc.

The fact is that women are not polygamous like men. Several partners at once - not a feminine style. If she has a lover who is completely satisfied with her both in communication and in sex, then she will try to smoothly negate sexual relations with a man living with her as a husband or a civil spouse.

A changing woman emotionally does not belong to you anymore.It is not clear for what reasons she remains with you, because usually women, if there are no joint children and financial dependence on the spouse, prefer to leave to lovers or just leave if feelings in a relationship are over.

But if you have a special case, and you suspect that a woman nevertheless has a relationship on the side, remaining with you should pay attention to the frequency of her calls and messages. If until recently there were a dozen of them a day, and now they are not there and it doesn’t answer yours right away, then this is a reason to think about it. But keep in mind that a faithful woman who simply lost interest in you behaves in the same way, disappointed. If you are not interested in her, she will call only on business. The phrases in both cases are monosyllabic, tension is felt in the voice, the woman seeks to finish the conversation faster and hang up.

Some people themselves start to provoke your departure. They think this is the best option. If you can’t stand the scandals and leave, she will not have to explain herself and ask for forgiveness. In this case, conflicts erupt from scratch, with or without, the woman becomes picky, demanding, capricious. It is impossible to please her, no matter what you do. Even what she loved before causes her irritation.

The reason for this behavior is the strong sense of guilt she experiences. And the conflicts themselves start even not by her free will, but on a subconscious level. Note that similarly, some ladies behave during pregnancy in the early stages and during premenstrual syndrome, and therefore observe or ask her a question.

He begins to speak in riddles and secrets appear. Previously, her phone could lie for hours on a shelf in the hallway or on a table in the kitchen. There were no secrets; she always told who and why called. Now more and more often the phone will be in the “silent” or “vibration” mode so as not to attract your attention. Messages will be deleted, new passwords will appear on the computer and smartphone, which will not tell you anything.

She will leave to talk on the phone “with Masha from work” or “with Lena from the nail salon” on the balcony or in the porch, and when asked why it is impossible to discuss manicure or working moments with a colleague right in the apartment, in the kitchen, she will flash righteous anger and blame you with callousness, psychological illiteracy and attempt on her personal space.

Women who have already theoretically designated a replacement for themselves begin to be critical of everything you do. She is annoyed by your manner of eating, she is unpleasant that you have thrown your socks back into the clothes basket in the bathroom, she criticizes your appearance, work, friends, character, hobby.

A lot in this matter depends on how well your companion knows how to lie well. There are women who do not know how to do this, and the truth goes out. Therefore, it is worth starting with an honest conversation. If you start screaming and show her the signs you have identified, a normal conversation will not work. Aggression generates a dull defense - it closes and does not say anything, it can simply evade the conversation, and then it changed or not, it will be difficult to know with accuracy.

Speak calmly, peacefully, choose the appropriate time for this, when she and you are in no hurry, for example, on a weekend. You should not listen to what exactly she will answer, it is much more important how she will make it. There are very few women who know how to lie without batting an eye, and therefore there are very few representatives of the fair sex in intelligence.A person who lies, looks away, avoids direct eye contact, scratches or rubs his neck, wings of his nose, coughs. If you notice signs of a lie, say it calmly again and confirm the words with the signs you discovered. Many under such pressure give up and admit everything.

The second way is for patient men. It involves observation and evidence gathering. In this case, the decisive conversation with the mass of collected evidence is carried over to a later time.

Surveillance is not entirely ethical in terms of moral principles, and if you find yourself wrong, it will be very difficult to restore lost trust. Common friends and her friends can be a useful source of information, but here it should be borne in mind that friends can be biased or poorly informed, and then the truth can reach you in a very distorted form, and sometimes the versions presented will generally be far from reality. In addition, the question of whether friends should be initiated into your doubts is rather dubious.

Which method of collecting information to choose is up to you. It all depends on what you, by virtue of personal culture and upbringing, consider it permissible for yourself - some read her messages on the phone, others follow her before and after work, and still others hire a private detective to do all the dirty work with the wrong hands. There are also large originals that lead your beloved to the polygraph, however, after this the couples often part and not always because the betrayal is proven.

If long-term parting on duty for your couple is a common thing, then the question arises, is it possible to find out about the infidelity of a woman from a distance. Yes, you are deprived of the opportunity to see her eyes and watch her, but you can pay attention to how much the woman remains attentive to you. If she does not call for a long time, does not write, and answers your calls in monosyllabic phrases that do not imply a long and intimate conversation, if your calls annoy her and more often you get on time, you can only determine what to communicate with you on some then the reasons the woman is not configured. What specific reasons she has for this are difficult to determine from a distance.

It is inappropriate to discuss this by correspondence, because you will not see the woman’s eyes and reactions in response to your questions. Although, if a girl has seriously fallen in love, with a high degree of probability she will inform about this and in correspondence, write a touching letter, which will end with the traditional in this case, “forgive” and “goodbye”. If parting is not included in her plans, and that guy is just an accident, then it will be impossible to find out about cheating at a distance, or only during a personal meeting, when it will be possible to talk in person.

Jealousy is a destructive feeling that a person often creates for himself with his fears and low self-esteem, fear of being alone, being a loser and a loser in the eyes of others. Before starting a large-scale search for evidence of a partner’s betrayal, psychologists advise men to think carefully - and if she is not to blame for anything? After all, this will negatively affect the future relationship of the couple.

If the betrayal is obvious, then the man should try to calm down, pull himself together and decide for himself - what's next. Either he is ready to stay with this girl further and forgive, or now he does not see a shared future and he insists on breaking up.

Treason is a difficult test of adulthood. Only adults, psychologically and emotionally mature people are capable of forgiveness. If you decide to stay with this woman further, never remind about what happened and watch your own condition - quite often, on the basis of a single betrayal, rather severe personality disorders develop, including pathological paranoid jealousy.

If your chosen one does not want to continue relations with you, let her go as correctly as possible, with respect. Anyone deserves respect and no one is required to meet your expectations.

Scandals, the desire for revenge, attempts at assault, insults are not the best option for a man to conduct in such a situation. The event itself will not change from this, its experience will not change, but a sense of shame will be added to the gamut of not the most pleasant emotions, which then, when the anger goes away, will certainly arise in the empty place in the soul.

It may take time for a man to answer all these questions. In order not to break firewood, it is better to take a break - to leave somewhere under a plausible pretext, to be in solitude, to think, to put everything on the shelves. One morning, you will feel the clarity and full understanding of the future path. If there is a woman on it who has inflicted a wound, try to establish a relationship with her. If the path is different, start living with renewed vigor.