The girl cheated on a guy: what are the reasons and what to do?

Loving couples during their relationship undergo many trials and twists and turns. Sometimes young people are faced with an unpleasant and painful situation when a girl betrayed, changing with another. Immediately tormented by questions: “Why did she do this?”, “How now to treat her and whether to continue to meet with her?” In this article, we will talk about the causes of female infidelity and how to behave a man in a similar situation.

Girls and women rarely change by chance, just because of the circumstances. The fact is that, unlike the stronger sex, there is no “sporting interest” in the sexual sphere in their psychology. Subconsciously in the animal and human world, males seek to spread their seed and give as many offspring as possible. In other words, the males aim to mate with as many partners as possible.

No matter how crude the comparison with animals may sound, many of the key and basic aspects of the psyche are similar to them. Of course, society over many centuries left an imprint on the moral standards and personality of representatives of mankind. We are able to control instincts, regulate behavior, be guided not only by reflexes, but also by moral aspects when making decisions. But psychologists confirm that in the female and male sexual nature there are quite significant differences, briefly outlined above.

There is no doubt that there can be exceptions to the rule among both men and women. But they are usually very bright and clearly stand out. For example, nymphomaniacs who are strongly attracted to a variety of sexual sensations.

If a girl cheated on her boyfriend, it is worth cardinally analyzing the relationship. Most likely, after digging in them seriously, a lot of problems will be revealed.

• There are frequent cases when a guy is forced to be in the army or just away from his beloved for some reason. And after a few months, the girl begins to cheat on him. Alas, not all relationships stand the test of separation. At a distance, feelings may weaken. Or, for some reason, the partner herself will begin to get the impression that her young man, being away, has cooled down to her.
• A girl may not be able to resist and change with her ex. This can happen if she has feelings for him. Or her former young man does not abandon attempts to return the relationship, and the girl succumbed to his tricks and persuasions.
• A woman can decide on treason, with the goal of revenge on her partner. If a man periodically allows himself to go left, he inflicts strong resentment and humiliates a partner. A girl may begin to experience self-doubt, a feeling of inferiority. As a result, having changed at least once, she restores her femininity in her eyes, simultaneously making an attempt to hurt the feelings and pride of the wrong partner.

• At the beginning of the relationship, most guys are very actively caring for their passion. She basks in compliments, tender words, romantic surprises and gifts. But the stronger the bonds become, the weaker are the signs of attention from the partner, with time, in many cases, completely disappearing. In such a situation, a woman begins to feel unnecessary. Lack of confirmation of the feelings of a loved one can be confusing.

At such a moment, a woman is easily seduced by a manifestation of attention from the outside. Often, girls switch to another young man. And he, in turn, sparing no effort in the manifestation of his feelings, can eventually easily fall in love with someone's passion.

• The lack of mutual understanding between partners often becomes a factor pushing a woman to search for a soul mate. If a man almost does not support his partner in anything, they have little in common and very different interests, relations are unlikely to be comfortable and warm. After a passionate love is dulled, a woman can pay attention to another person who is much closer to her than the one with whom she is currently dating.
• Malfunctions in the sexual life of couples can spoil the relationship, and are often the reason for finding a sexual partner on the side. Often couples are shy or do not know how to discuss their intimate sphere with each other.

• Cheating, oddly enough, may have a financial background. Some women are ready to meet with a young man only because of his financial security, while not feeling sincere feelings for him. Naturally, sooner or later, such a person is likely to meet someone whom she really falls in love with. But not wanting to lose financial well-being, women in such situations often decide not to leave a rich man, but at the same time have a lover.
• Some women are characterized by increased sexuality and curiosity in the intimate sphere. They constantly want to experience new sensations, try something unknown. Keeping such a girl from adultery will be extremely difficult.
• As mentioned above, most women subconsciously seek to find support and protection in a man. And this can only be given by a confident, morally persistent and courageous young man.If a guy weakly shows volitional qualities, is not confident in himself and is not successful, a woman can grow cold towards him, not seeing prospects and not feeling a “strong shoulder”.

It is impossible to give universal recommendations and instructions on what to do in case of betrayal of a loved one. It all depends on the specific situation: on the nature and duration of your relationship, on your feelings and reciprocity on the part of the partner, on the reasons that prompted the woman to change.

• Having learned about the infidelity of your beloved, try not to do anything on a hot head. Inadequate, overly emotional behavior can harm in this situation, pushing on rash acts.
• Recheck the information if it came to you from third parties or anonymously. Perhaps someone is plotting against your passion and just slandered it.
• Try to find out if it was a one-time connection or whether the woman had a long and constant romance on the side.

In the first case, calmly talk with your lover. Ask her about the reasons for this behavior. Most likely, something in your relationship does not suit her. Let her know that she is ready to work on herself and that relations should be built on mutual trust, and not on omissions.

The second situation, when a partner has a constant lover, is more complicated. Find out if she has feelings for another man.

After a beloved woman has changed, it is very difficult for many men to restore their lost confidence in her. If the guy wants to continue to meet with his lover, he will need to be able to continue to let go of this unpleasant situation.

Often, a woman herself after a betrayal is greatly tormented by her conscience, she sincerely repents of what happened. And if the partner decided to end her relationship, she tries to get him back, begging forgiveness.

In the case when a man still decides to break with the wrong passion, he will have a difficult period of separation. And if the strong feeling for the girl has not died out, the separation is often very painful. However, if the cheating woman is clearly not repenting of her deed, or if the episodes of infidelity have been repeated more than once, separation is perhaps the best option.

Another way is forgiveness of betrayal and the continuation of the relationship. But it is also not too easy for many guys. Usually, forgiving and forgetting about what happened is greatly hindered by restrained pride, a feeling of resentment. Most men subsequently almost constantly feel tension and distrust of their partner. Such an episode in a relationship as treason often inflames a partner's sense of jealousy.

In such a situation, everything will depend on the real feelings of the woman and on her further behavior. If she manages to melt the ice of mistrust and resentment in her partner’s heart, the couple has a good chance to return to normal relations after some time.

The events taking place with us give us the opportunity to accumulate precious life experience and correct our mistakes. Therefore, having lived even such an unpleasant episode as the betrayal of your beloved, do not get too hung up on him.

The big mistake is self-image and constant experience, conscious recall of this trouble. Life does not stand still. When a child burns himself on a hot kettle, he receives a valuable lesson: you need to be careful with this item and do not need to touch it with your hand. And this skill, in the future, no doubt, helps him in life.

In a similar way, you need to be able to make something important and useful for yourself from any event, even severe and painful. Having lived through the situation, having analyzed it and drawing conclusions, force yourself to stop returning to it. And, of course, leave the learned experience to yourself, but drive away heavy memories.

To be distracted, lead an active lifestyle. Try playing sports or some new hobby. Keep communicating with friends, do not lock yourself. Remove things from the apartment that will clearly remind you of what happened.

• Do not shift absolutely all the blame for treason girls only on themselves. Everyone has flaws, and they could partially serve as a reason for infidelity. Try to take them into account and work on their correction.
• Do not label yourself as a “useless” or “insolvent” man. Often, guys after they cheated on them, lose confidence. They can knowingly or subconsciously forbid themselves to meet and look for new acquaintances with the opposite sex.

But this is a very wrong model of behavior. Remember, there are a lot of women in the world, they all have completely different personal characteristics and characters. Therefore, punishing yourself with a love of “penance” due to one failure is extremely stupid and unacceptable.

• If you still decide to build relationships and stay with your girlfriend after the betrayal, try to pacify the manifestations of jealousy. This is very difficult, but refrain from checking the phone, account on social networks and private messages. If the passion really continues to deceive you, it will still come up. And your attempts at control only make her hide better.
• If a woman sincerely repented and is truly faithful to you now, such jealous behavior will greatly humiliate her and keep her in suspense.
• Try to learn to talk to each other. The expressed fears, feelings, complaints in a tactful form, wishes and requests with joint efforts can be worked out. Confidential communication in a couple significantly strengthens the relationship.

But omissions, emotional closeness, or, on the contrary, excessive aggression and scandals heat up the situation, distance the couple in love from each other.