6 years after the wedding: the name and features of its celebration

Six years of marriage is not a “round" date, however, it is very important for spouses and people close to them. To make this solemn event unforgettable, it is worth preparing and observing some traditions.

The sixth anniversary of the wedding is called a cast-iron wedding. The interpretation of the name of the anniversary is interesting. At first glance, cast iron is a durable metal, however, it can easily deform when handled carelessly. A married life of 6 years also seems to be a rather long period. Husband and wife become confident in each other, know each other well enough. But this is not a reason to relax, because family ties and love, like cast iron, do not tolerate a careless attitude.

It is interesting that cast iron acquires the greatest strength during glowing at high temperatures. It seems to remind the spouses of the need to keep a high "degree" of relations - do not forget about love, tenderness, passion. Psychologists talk about a crisis of relations, the first of which falls on a 3-year, the second 5-, 6- or 7-year period of marriage. And again, the name "cast-iron wedding" perfectly illustrates the family experience that "young" have accumulated. Now their family is strong enough, the relationship looks “impressive”, but if you stop working on them, a crisis or “cast iron destruction” may break out.

In a word, a cast-iron wedding is an opportunity for spouses to look at their marriage from a different angle. Attitudes towards this period can be devoid of romance and seem to be something taken for granted, indestructible and mundane.However, it was during this period that couples could lurk the verification of the strength of their marriage. It can be sustained by showing a careful attitude to each other, remembering the importance of sincerity, tenderness in the family. Another name for this anniversary is a mountain ash wedding. It is explained by the fact that clusters of ripe berries have long symbolized the family hearth.

A cast-iron wedding, like most of these dates, has long been celebrated in Russia. A few days before the sixth birthday of the family, the spouse cleaned cast iron utensils and utensils to a shine, and on the day of the celebration she proudly put it on the street for all to see. Undoubtedly, in this tradition, there is a connection with the name of the celebration, and the desire of the mistress of the house to demonstrate her own abilities, the skills that she acquired in marriage. It is not surprising that the mother-in-law was the first and one of the main guests that day. Her task was to examine all corners of the house of her son and daughter-in-law to make sure how well the latter copes with housekeeping.

To do this, the mother-in-law took a white shawl and guided them to all corners of the house. The result, regardless of whether it was positive or negative, was demonstrated to guests. Also during the cast-iron anniversary, it was customary to cook food exclusively in dishes of the same metal. At the end of the festive feast, the guests were given a cast iron in which they lowered the coins. The larger the “gathering”, the more prosperous and rich the coming years will be. Having escorted guests, the couple again took the cast iron and lowered notes into it with those cherished wishes written in them. Then the cast iron was cleaned away from prying eyes. It was believed that the desired would come true within a year.

In the Baltics, you rarely hear the name “cast-iron” wedding; here, a more poetic epithet - mountain ash is in use. If the family still has no children by the 6th anniversary, then young relatives, who have already managed to become a mother, presented the “newlywed” with a bouquet of mountain ash clusters. And the French, known for their romantic moods and easy attitude to life, nicknamed the sixth birthday of the family lollipop. "Newlyweds" on this day accept houses as candies and caramels, which symbolize a sweet life in abundance.

If you take into account the traditions of the past, the most preferred option for the celebration will be a small family celebration, at which the mistress of the house, like many centuries ago, will be able to demonstrate her skills as a mistress, wife, mother. By the way, most young families do just that for economic reasons - yet the date is not "round." Since cast iron is associated with pans, it is better to make a large meat pie as the main course. In a cast-iron skillet, such dishes are especially successful.

The cake can be made in the form of a cast-iron cup with a playful inscription, which is given for an impeccable family life. As a rule, such a gift is prepared by guests. Even if a small company of relatives gathers at the table, take care of the thematic interior design. You can choose a combination of white and golden or warm yellow, light brown. They will symbolize cast iron.

A little more imagination will give the name "rowan wedding." It is logical that the ball will be edited in white, red and green shades. It’s better to choose white as the main color, since the remaining two will tire you with heavy use. Autumn wedding can be decorated with natural rowan clusters. They can be the main bouquet on the table or arranged in a napkin ring, in plates or next to them for each guest.

If family gatherings seem boring to you, then it is not forbidden to arrange festivities on a grand scale. It’s not necessary to spend a lot of money on it. It is enough to arrange car rides, paving an interesting route, taking light snacks and disposable tableware.In this case, be sure to plan a visit to the bridge and prepare a cast-iron lock with keys in advance. It will need to be fixed on the bridge, and the keys thrown into the water.

Some couples perform this ceremony on the day of registration of marriage, but after 6 years the tradition looks more logical and symbolic. The couple walked together part of the way, and at the same time its very difficult part (remember that we talked about relationship crises a little higher). The castle symbolizes that they are ready to move on, take care of the family. You can even combine these holiday scenarios. During the day, spend it with friends and young relatives, driving a car, having a picnic. In the evening, celebrate the anniversary with parents and older relatives at the gala dinner.

You can beat the custom that existed in ancient times to “let in” a cast iron for guests in a modern way - instead of coins, invite relatives to lower notes with wishes in it. After seeing the guests, you can, like our Slavic ancestors, begin to write cherished desires on the leaves and lower them into the cast iron. This will bring the spouses together, will become a kind of planning for the coming year. By the way, exactly one year later, you can get notes and discuss what has come true and what desires may already seem insignificant. By the same analogy, you can omit notes describing memorable moments, thanks to your soul mate, achievements of your family. Moreover, this tradition can be adopted to celebrate subsequent anniversaries.

The mother-in-law can embody one more tradition. To do this, she should introduce the guests and her daughter-in-law to the tradition that existed earlier - to check the cleanliness of the home with a handkerchief. After that, you should beat the “verification session” with humor - put on white gloves and check, of course, where they cannot get dirty (bedding, upholstered furniture). Then, the mother-in-law can proudly demonstrate the gloves that remained white after checking and give the daughter-in-law a comic letter, a medal or a cup with the title “The Most Neat / Household”, etc.

If you follow the tradition, the spouses (and guests) should give gifts made of cast iron or things stylized for this material. Unlike some dates, when they give jewelry made of gold, silver with precious and semiprecious stones, a cast-iron wedding does not imply this. The husband can give his wife (according to tradition) something from the kitchen utensils. However, you should make adjustments to the modern mentality - such a gift can offend a woman.

A man can be presented with weights or dumbbells (connection with cast iron), metal cigarette case, flask for alcohol, an ashtray. When choosing a gift, invited guests should remember that both spouses should use it. It is desirable that they have a relationship or be associated with cast iron. Such a gift can be cast iron dishes, various caskets, figurines, vases.

However, modern housewives may not be happy with such a gift - it turns out to be too bulky and old-fashioned. The way out of the situation may be the presentation of forged cast-iron products for the interior - a beautiful bench for legs with twisted cast-iron legs, a mirror in an intricate cast-iron framing pattern, corner and ordinary bath shelves. Such products always look unusual, expensive and airy.

If the heroes of the occasion love picnics or have a summer house, you can give a cast-iron barbecue with grills, skewers. Shod elements can represent initials of "young", their surname, intertwine in hearts. Such a gift, of course, “will cost a pretty penny,” but you can make it collective. Definitely, it will be more useful and more pleasant than a faceless cast-iron figurine. Owners of a dacha or a country house can be presented with a cast-iron grill for a fireplace, tongs and similar tools. A good option is street lights, small benches.

An interesting presentation option is precious coins that are always associated with metal. Such a gift is also an investment. It is better to contact a specialist and purchase really valuable coins. Do not forget to talk about their value in the financial market donated.

Cast iron products are less and less found in the everyday life of a modern person, which is associated with their great weight, bulkiness, high cost. However, with their help, you can beat more modern counterparts. For example, to present to the “newlyweds” first an old iron made of cast iron, and then to present a modern model with a steam generator and many “bells and whistles”. Naturally, gifts must be somehow connected with each other and with the holiday, for example, using a beautiful parable.

One of the options for a “cast-iron” gift is a candlestick. But if you give only him, the "young" are unlikely to find him a use. It is worth complementing it with scented candles, a pair of wine glasses on thin legs (can be engraved) and a bottle of good wine. Agree, now the gift looks like a mini-set for a romantic evening and, perhaps, the “newlyweds” will want to use it immediately after they spend the guests. Undoubtedly, such a present will be remembered, and its donor will be remembered with a kind word.

If the cast-iron theme is not close to you, and the anniversary falls on the beginning or middle of autumn, interpret it as rowanberry. Gifts in a rich red color, that is, a mountain ash shade, will be relevant. Here jewelry with precious and semiprecious stones of the corresponding shades will already be appropriate. The shade of a winter berry is rich and vibrant, which is associated with deep love, sensuality of partners, passion. A spouse can be presented with scarlet lace underwear or a certificate in the underwear salon that day.

Bed linen or table linen, a set of towels, rugs, and interior textiles will always be an appropriate gift for a couple. It is not necessary to choose products of red color, you can focus on neutral shades with a floral ornament, it is better - an image of clusters of mountain ash. It is not necessary to give exclusively cast-iron pans, pots and pans. You can choose an elegant tea or coffee set for 6 people (according to the number of years lived). If desired, it can be placed on a cast-iron or any other metal tray, decorating it with rowan leaves, berries.

Do not forget about the colors. It is better for the wife to present to the wife a bouquet of her favorite flowers. Guests can bring alstroemeria, sunflowers, calla lilies, hypericum. If the mountain ash has already turned red, feel free to include branches with berries in the composition.

You will learn how to cook meat pie for a cast-iron wedding in a pan in the next video.