22 years after the wedding: what is the name and how to celebrate it?

Most of us know the names of wedding anniversaries - silver, gold, diamond. It is also well known about the chintz wedding - the first anniversary of the wedding. However, each year lived together in an official marriage has its own name and traditions for its celebration.

And today we’ll talk about the twenty-second anniversary of family life. This is not an anniversary silver anniversary, but nevertheless a rather long period of matrimony. And, of course, this day is worthy of its offensive being properly celebrated.

Twenty two years of marriage are called bronze wedding. This is not silver, but not the porcelain “twenty year old” anniversary. The name of this date is given for a reason, because bronze is an expensive and valuable metal. People who have been living together for so many years are already quite old to be aware of and appreciate the existing relationships and family structure, while still quite young to have strong feelings for each other.

Nevertheless, bronze is no longer fabric, not wood, it is metal, that is, the material is much stronger. This suggests that the alliance of partners over the years of marriage has “bronzed”, has become a kind of monolith, an alloy, something that cannot be easily destroyed.

The name, as it were, hints that bronze itself is strong, reliable, and at the same time very malleable (for which it is extremely appreciated by sculptors) and conducts heat very well. These properties of bronze make it a unique metal.

Drawing a parallel with marriage, we can say that spouses who have lived so many years side by side warm each other with the warmth of their souls, are able to concede in matters important to their partner, and together they are a reliable and strong team.In truly strong alliances, these are fundamental principles that act “by default”, under any circumstances, as they say, in grief and joy, in wealth and poverty.

Since all people are different, the customs in each family are different. From year to year, some couples go to their favorite restaurant from year to year, someone goes out into the country as a family, someone like this day a deserted island in the warm ocean. In some families, it is customary to mark the wedding date only for spouses, without children. Someone, on the contrary, celebrates with children in the family circle.

It is good if the work schedule of both the husband and the wife allows them to wake up that day and spend some time with each other: exchange words of love and gratitude for the years that have passed, recall joyful and funny moments from the life of the family, and dream about the future. Maybe they will want to revisit a photo album with memorable moments of family life or a video from the wedding day.

Now there are a huge number of companies offering to organize a romantic evening in accordance with any client’s wishes: it can be a dinner on the roof of a high-rise building overlooking the city or a boat trip on the evening river, you can even go on a horseback ride or ride in a carriage, to fly in a balloon or at least participate in a walking or studio photo shoot and get beautiful memorable photos - only together or with children.

Various types of workshops are no less popular at present: ceramic, on which a couple can manually create a symbol of their family and thus perpetuate this date forever; culinary - there you can prepare a dessert or a cake yourself to celebrate the event; any other at the request of the spouses.

After twenty or more years of marriage, many couples decide to get married in order to bond the family with not only earthly, but also divine oaths. This is understandable - the union is strong enough, spouses are connected not only by ardent love, but also mutual respect, care, attention. Truly strong couples conducting this ceremony will make it even closer and more expensive to each other.

In the West, such a tradition as “renewing vows” is popular: spouses who have been married for a long time exchange vows of marriage again. Without urging to take this ritual literally, you can take from it the very idea of ​​reminding each other why you once decided to start a family, why it was the right step, and what has changed since then - your feelings have grown stronger, intensified, they have new facets.

However, consider what to do on this day is undesirable.

• Call guests. “Happiness loves silence” - this phrase is very accurate in relation to marriage. Wedding anniversary - a celebration of spouses, celebrated exclusively in the family circle. Husband, wife and children are the people on him. It’s not accepted to invite anyone else, even the closest friends. However, it is not prohibited, each couple chooses the composition of guests on their own.
• Turn a quiet family celebration into a noisy party until morning. This is completely unnecessary in this situation, since the wedding anniversary, so to speak, is a “chamber” event, it should take place calmly and joyfully.
• Recreate the events of twenty-two years ago, namely: the wife - to wear a wedding dress and veil, her husband - a suit of the groom with a boutonniere. This is not a wedding, but its anniversary, and the husband and wife are no longer the bride and groom. This is a celebration of two adults, for a long time consisting in a marriage, and that is why it is celebrated differently than a wedding.

A rare celebration is complete without gifts, and the anniversary of marriage is no exception. Spouses exchange gifts with each other, and children can also give them gifts. If friends are invited to the celebration, they should also bring something as a gift for each of the spouses or for the couple as a whole.

We list what is customary to present to a bronze wedding.

Bronze is not cheap metal, as are its products. But when to give valuable gifts, if not on the wedding anniversary. You should not buy the first bronze product that comes across, your gift should be meaningful and impress the donee.

If the spouse smokes, you can give him a lighter, cigarette case or an ashtray from this material. If he does not have such a bad habit, you can give him a tea pair, a flask, a watch. If a man is a coffee lover, a bronze Turk or a set for making a drink in the sand will be in the top ten. A similar gift, it should be noted, will please the lady. Or maybe this, in general, will be a gift to children from their parents if both of them are coffee lovers.

The choice of gifts for the lady is wider - it can be dishes for the one who is passionate about cooking, a small mirror in an elegant bronze frame for a socialite, a decorative garden figurine for a lover of growing flowers and vegetables. In a word, having shown imagination and taking into account the tastes of his wife (and you should have known about them for twenty-two lived years), the husband can make this holiday even more memorable by presenting to her exactly what will please her most.

If parents are fond of antiques, you can give them a rare or collectible item in accordance with their interests. An antiquity can also be presented to a spouse by a spouse (and vice versa) if one of them is interested in such things.

If you have a large house or apartment, you can give bronze figurines, medium-sized sculptures, other interior items such as lamps, coffee tables or coasters for umbrellas. If the family lives in a small apartment, and there is nowhere to put these items in particular, you should not burden them with such gifts.

For families in which they favor esoteric teachings, feng shui items, such as images of the gods Daikoku and Ebis, which help to increase wealth, will be a good gift. They are placed near safes, piggy banks, where money is stored. Bronze spoons “zagrebushki” and shovels for money, which are put in wallets and purses, will also become an inexpensive, but pleasant gift.

In preparing for the celebration of the bronze wedding, one should take into account both the external surroundings in which this event will be held, and the list of dishes that are planned to be served.

According to the name, the table design should be “bronze”. Dishes and utensils in appropriate colors, candles and candlesticks, even a tablecloth - well, if everything is monochrome in the color of this metal. If a couple celebrates this date outside the home, you can take care of the presence of, for example, balloons in this shade to indicate the celebrated holiday.

As for the dishes, they should look "rich", be abundantly decorated. The correct decision would be to serve a bird baked in the oven - duck, chicken, turkey with apples or other fruits. Slices of vegetables, meat, fish, fruits, originally decorated, are also suitable.

A prerequisite for a festive table set in honor of a bronze wedding is the presence of sweet dishes on it as a symbol of “sweet” life in the future. Most often this is a cake, it can even be decorated with figures of the bride and groom. If there is no desire to buy or bake a cake, you can order a set of cakes, cupcakes, tri-flakes or any other confectionery, but dessert should be required.

Today it is not difficult to do this, because a huge number of confectioners offer their services for the production of custom treats. A sweet dish can be presented with a pie - with lingonberries, apples with cinnamon, pears or plums, at the request of the heroes of the occasion.

The outfits of the spouses should also be designed in a "bronze" scale. For her, an elegant dress, shoes or jewelry of a "precious" shade is suitable, and for him - a tie or cufflinks.

In families in which the wedding anniversary is a real holiday, each lived year only strengthens the union. The more years a marriage is, the stronger and more reliable it is, because a silver wedding is just around the corner, and there it is just around the corner.

About what to present to friends on the 22nd anniversary of married life, see the video below.