Rare phobias are striking in their diversity. One of these few common fears is dorophobia - the fear of giving and receiving gifts. For most people, this disorder seems ridiculous, but there’s really nothing funny about it, because any phobic disorder significantly complicates a person’s life.
Description
Phobia refers to specific and isolated. Dorophobia got its name from the Greek word doron, which means "gift." Fear of receiving a gift or an insurmountable horror of the prospect of giving it to someone is closely connected only with these actions. In other everyday situations, dorophobes behave as usual.
Exacerbations of dorophobia usually occur during the holidays. As some significant event or triumph approaches, a person begins to experience great anxiety, which is very difficult for him, it is almost impossible to control. Fear is intrusive, often accompanied by panic attacks.
What is expressed?
There is no detailed clinical description of dorophobia, since the disease is extremely rare. People who are afraid of gifts try to celebrate holidays alone. As soon as the event approaches, they can turn off the phone, close the house, and take a sick leave, so as not to accidentally run into congratulations and gifts from colleagues at work.
They avoid holiday sales, and if they accidentally come across gift advertising on the eve of the holidays, they immediately rush to switch the TV or radio station to another channel.
If the gift nevertheless catches up with the dorophobe, he can experience real horror.The look of a festive box with a bright ribbon in wrapping paper can be very worrying. The hands begin to tremble, sweat appears, the heartbeat intensifies, jumps in blood pressure are observed, the pupils become dilated. A person temporarily loses control over his emotions. Some dorophobes are not able to independently open a gift box. What is inside causes a strong subconscious fear.
With a phobic disorder associated with the fear of giving gifts, dorophobes are very worried if there is a need to give. They cannot fall asleep; they are constantly tormented by anxiety.
It is believed that the basis of such fear is the fear of being misunderstood, unacceptable, unappreciated in dignity, ridiculed for an unsuccessful gift. And the fact that a gift cannot be successful by definition does not doubt the true dorophobe.
Origin of fear
The causes of a rare phobic disorder always come from childhood. It is believed that unfortunate jokes that peers sometimes allow among themselves can influence. For example, classmates hid a mouse or a spider, a firecracker or a cracker for a birthday party, which exploded loudly at the very moment when a person opened the box in anticipation.
Parental behavior can also affect the likelihood of phobias. If adults often reproach the child with gifts, select gifts made earlier for faults, then the person begins to associate the act of giving with something like a favor — he understands that they don’t give gifts for nothing. And in which case they will be required in full.
Fear of giving gifts to others can arise after an unfortunate event when a gift made to a loved one with love and from the heart was ridiculed. This often happens with children when they first fall in love.
The gift that is presented to the dream boy or dream girl means a lot to the giver. And if at this moment the addressee laughs him, does it in public, starts to scoff, then it is very likely that in the future any prospect of making a gift will be closely associated with a sense of danger. Dorophobes, like other phobes, adhere to an evading behavior pattern. They try to completely exclude from life situations when you need to accept something as a gift or give to others.
This makes a person’s life limited - he refuses to visit the birthdays of friends and relatives, does not invite guests to his place, does not visit comrades and classmates at weddings, does not go to visit.
How to get rid?
A psychotherapist can help in overcoming this phobia. He will find out the root causes that caused the violation, if the patient himself does not remember such an event, Hypnosis methods come to the rescue. In a trance state, many unmistakably name circumstances in which they first received the negative experience associated with gifts.
Helps get rid of dorophobia cognitive behavioral therapy, it is aimed at breaking down the false synoptic connections of the nervous system and creating new, more positive ones. Thus, a person begins at first simply to be tolerant of gifts, and then give and receive presents with pleasure.
Receiving a gift is always associated with the production of dopamine - a substance that helps our brain feel pleasure, enjoy the moment. therefore with psychocorrection of dorophobia usually there are no problems, because the doctor only establishes completely natural reactions of the psyche, without inventing or creating anything artificial.
Can be recommended at the same time antidepressants, as well as relaxation techniques - swimming, yoga, breathing exercises.
